How Long Should You Wait Before Your Family Meets Your Date?
I was talking the other day with my friend Martin at happy hour. He brought up a very interesting topic. Martin’s in his mid-thirties and dating a young woman he nicknamed Lady Friend. She isn’t his girlfriend yet, at least not that he tells people. They have been together for around three months. Well, Lady Friend may not be on the same page as Martin, commitment-level wise. Martin won’t call her his girlfriend, and there she was inviting him home for Easter to meet her parents. This shocked him :’so soon!’ he exclaimed. But then we started talking and wondered, how soon is too soon, and how do you know when it is ok to invite the partner home? Martin’s take is that three months is not long enough. Our friend Jane agrees with him. Jane is even more conservative with bringing home dates than Martin is. If you want to meet her parents, Jane tells us, you can figure on dating her at least a year before you get that invitation. My own case is unusual. I told them hesitatingly of my story. My current boyfriend invited me to meet his parents only five weeks after we started dating. My friends were amazed. ‘What did you do?,’ they asked me. Simple: I went. ‘Turned out fine, we’re still together and happy nearly a year later.’ That doesn’t mean that I was comfortable with five weeks though. In fact I waited several more months before inviting my boyfriend home to meet my parents. There are a number of factors to consider when you determine when you want to invite your partner to meet your parents. You need to weigh the pros and cons. On one hand, too soon and your significant other will feel rushed and uncomfortable. Nobody likes to be pressured. But on the other hand, an invitation is a good way to gauge whether your partner is serious. That is something you do want to know, and it may be better to find this out sooner rather than later. Wouldn’t you want to know rather than waste your time? You may be wondering what happened with Martin. Well, he decided to go with his gut, and stay home with his family for Easter. Meeting Lady Friend’s parents will have to wait for now. Read more of this author’s writing regarding items including the gas leak detector and the water leak detector.
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